Is my wife mentally ill or just not nice?

Your keylogger is not illegal if it is on your home computer it is your property you have the right to monitor activity, the phone records, and anything else you can load onto a jumpdrive. Compile and print as much of this information as you can the evidence of the abortion if you can get it, Get all the Evidence you can- print it, store it, and load it to disk or jumpdrive. You need to leave her this is a drastic affair, behavior, and possible mental illness( not all mental illness she is responsible for her actions mental illness only accounts for so much). But if you can prove this stuff by hiring a private-eye who can compile even more photographic and tape her behavior you can video tape and obtain reciepts for the pills for the bulimia issue to, get your kids and RUN!